How do you soften your heart?
According to Gordon Neufeld, a heart can only be softened with the cultivation of safe and caring attachments with others. It is relationship that offers someone the promise of safety, warmth, and dependence. It is attachment that is the antidote to facing too much separation and wounding.
He has promised to forgive me for my hard heart but has also promised to soften it.” Ezekiel 36:26 reveals God's desire towards men, “I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you; I will remove from you your heart of stone and you a heart of flesh.”
“Father, please draw this person to Yourself, and soften their heart so they can see who You are and what You're doing in their life. Open their eyes to You, and give them a heart that knows and understands You are the Lord.”
Attitudes displaying that of a soft heart are found in 1 Peter 3:8-9, where the Apostle tells believers they should have unity of mind with one another, sympathy, brotherly love, a tender heart, a humble mind and not to repay evil for evil but bless one another.
Melt/soften the heart is a call to release tension from your chest and upper back. In a more esoteric sense, it is a call to become more fluid and open yourself to freedom and energy.
very sympathetic or responsive; generous in spirit. a soft-hearted judge.
- Your prayer is answered. This one sounds obvious, but it can easily be overlooked. ...
- You see positive signs. ...
- You see negative signs. ...
- Nothing changes. ...
- Open the Bible!
Here is a list of 7 strong warning signs that a heart has hardened and needs repair: Lack of ability to perceive, remember, or grasp events or ideas coming from God. Insensitivity to sin, sinfulness. Failure to follow God's commands, the way of Jesus, the voice of the Holy Spirit.
Josiah became king of Judah when he was just eight years old. A soft or “tender” heart characterized his life.
Normal aging, conditions such as kidney disease or diabetes, or even physical trauma to the chest can trigger heart calcification—but the exact hardening mechanism is still largely unknown.
What are the signs of a hardened heart?
- You don't really celebrate and you don't really cry.
- You stop genuinely caring.
- So much of what's supposed to be meaningful feels mechanical.
- Passion is hard to come by.
- You no longer believe the best about people.
There Is Hope for the Hardened Heart
Jesus interacted with the “hardened hearts” who could not understand or discern the spiritual things (Mark 6:52; 8:4ff). Jesus not only interacted with the “hardened hearts,” but He also died for them. There is hope. Having a hardened heart is a spiritual condition.

If you describe someone as hard-hearted, you disapprove of the fact that they have no sympathy for other people and do not care if people are hurt or made unhappy.